During the season finale of Braxton Family Values, a reality show that mostly follows Toni Braxton and her giant family, the singer made a huge confession. During a therapy session with author and inspirational speaker Iyanla Vanzant, Toni admitted that while she loves her family, most of the time she does not like them and that meant everybody.
The Braxtons (which also included sisters, Tamar, Trina, Towanda, and Traci) all sat down to discuss ongoing issues they had with each other with Vanzant as a mediator. Vanzant works with healing on an emotional and spiritual level so that she can fix the root of the problem, not just the effects. During a one-on-one with Vanzant, Toni confessed that her family has held her back, specifically in terms of success. The Braxton daughters performed as a singing group in the late 1980s until Toni caught the ear of producers L.A. Reid and Babyface and signed with LaFace Records. Toni said that she was under enormous pressure to help her sisters also get signed and being the oldest in a traditional family probably made her feel like she should be helping her siblings at all costs. Toni confessed that she would “have soared” if she hadn’t been influenced by family pressure. Vanzant then gathers the Braxton together so they can confess their underlying issues. That’s when Toni says this:
While nothing Toni said is profound in a more progressive world, the Braxtons were raised in a very strict, religious household and Toni is the oldest of six. In the black community, especially the ol’ skool ones, it can be difficult to express the sentiments that Toni did because it is family and a person is supposed to forgive, forget and deal with it.
It seems that Toni’s words resonated with her family and though they were stunned, no one lashed out at her. Instead, the Braxtons tearfully acknowledged their shortcomings and decided to collectively work together to build a stronger unit.
Watch full episodes of Braxton Family Values on WE tv.